A Personal Message: To My Beautiful Niece

Not so very long ago, your birth gave me the honored title of “aunt” for the first time. It seems like just yesterday I was watching you run around in pigtails. Now you are officially an adult. How did that happen?

Though time and distance have separated us, I wanted to tell you how proud I am of the woman you have become. You are beautiful, artistic, competitive, athletic and kind. I am proud to call you my family.

As you venture off into adulthood, I want to leave you with some words of advice from your aunt who has learned most of this the hard way.

  1. Be true to who you are, because you are amazing.
  2. Listen to advice and opinions, but always prayerfully follow your gut.
  3. Sometimes good people with good intentions give bad advice. See #2.
  4. Forgiveness almost always involves apologizing, because nothing is 100% the other guy’s fault.  Do it.  Even if you don’t want to so your heart will live unencumbered by the weight of regret.  Trust me on this one.
  5. Find your passion and you will find your purpose.  Run after it with all your heart.
  6. Love your family.  Even when they are a-holes.
  7. No credit cards.  For any reason.  Ever.
  8. Dave Ramsey rocks.  See #7.
  9. Every action is a seed.  Good or bad.  Some seeds fall on fertile soil and take root.  Even the bad ones.  Try every day to plant good seeds even if you never see the harvest.
  10. Love, accept, affirm and encourage everyone you meet, flaws and all.  We are caretakers of all of God’s children.




I am so excited to see what life has in store for you. Congrats on your graduation and I love you lots.


  1. My word, that’s some awesome advice! Your niece is indeed BEAUTIFUL. Your family apparently produces gorgeous children. Thanks for sharing your words of wisdom publicly so we could all benefit!

  2. Tamishia Franklin says:

    Fighting back tears as I imagine so much love. Great words of wisdom…if only we all had someone in our lives to spread such great advise. amazing…blessing to you and your family.